Most of the time lately when anyone wants to hold him or even looks at him sometimes, he gets this horrible look on his face and then starts crying. It does not help for Lance and I to tell him "it's okay" as someone else is holding him. He does not care that "it's okay", he wants what he wants. Don't we all though? Babies are just lucky because they can cry and scream about what they want until they get it.
I've started to notice that this is mostly a problem when there is a group of people around AND all the attention is on him. He normally does fine at the grocery store when some random person tells him he is cute or even at play group with a big group of people around. However, whenever we are somewhere that a lot of people want to hold him or even a lot of people are just in his face...he doesn't like it. I have started to think that he is like his mamma and does not necessarily want all the attention on him. One day when he was upset, I discovered he was like me in more ways than I knew. I tried everything I could think of to calm him down and finally just went and laid him in his crib and the crying stopped. He just wanted to hang out in there and be left alone. Now I know...
What have we been doing about this? Well for one we have been letting him get used to people before we let them hold him. So Lance and I normally continue to hold him or let him do what he's doing until the person or people have been around for awhile so that he can get "used" to them again. Most of the time this works and the person is able to hold him without him having a major meltdown. Just like everything with babies this doesn't work all the time. Sometimes his mood isn't up for it and he doesn't care what we do. What do we do then? Calm him down and try out best to make him happy again.
I'm thinking this "stage" is all my fault because my mom has told me that my sister and I were both like this. We both hated being around big groups and she has told me what a nightmare it was to go to family functions. I have been able to relate. So if I no longer hand him right over or if he cries bloody murder at ya...I'm sorry, it really doesn't matter if he just saw you yesterday. He has still done it to people the next day. Please forgive him as it is nothing personal and the stage will end soon. We hope...
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